Mind your judgment!!

The world is moving at a very fast pace.Every person in this world is struggling for one or the other thing.Some people are striving hard for the money.Some people are striving hard for food. Some people have got enough but still, they are not satisfied and they strive hard for more. Every person has a different story, a different life.Time is one such thing which every person lacks amidst of so much struggle.No person has time for the other person.There is so much scarcity of time. Isn’t it?

But there is one such activity for which every person has the potential to take out time from his/her schedule, no matter how much busy the person is.And that activity is- Judging others!!!

The following line fits well for most of the people today….

“Amateur analysers and connoisseur judges”

It is really very surprising and shocking at the same time to find that most of the people today have enough time to judge others but don’t have time to analyse others’ situations.

A teacher scolding and beating a student for scoring low marks in an exam without finding out the reason behind it is one such example of judging without analysing.The time spent( or rather wasted) by the teacher on scolding and beating the student would have been utilised better on analysing the student’s situation and guiding him/her.It is a normal practice in most of the schools.In most of the schools and colleges, teachers and professors give more importance to the top performers whereas other students are considered as dumb and poor. Even while handling the big responsibilities, teachers always prefer the bright students to the not so bright ones.

It is shocking to learn that how a student is judged based on his/her marks and is tagged as “bright” or “dull”. I have seen many people who were not able to fare well in their studies due to some problems and were tagged as “dull” by the so-called teachers.But later on in their lives, those “dull” students were much more successful than those “bright” students.

Looking at a fat person and passing the judgement like, “He eats a lot.He doesn’t have control on his hunger and blah blah blah….” and making fun of him is a very common thing because most of the people do it.But analysing that fat persons’ situation is what no one bothers to do. Might he be suffering from a serious disease which is having a negative impact on his body weight but who cares to understand.

Any kind of harsh judgement would always cause a negative impact.Some people have the mental strength to deal with the negative judgments but some don’t have it.There had been many such cases which resulted in the death of the person just because nobody understood him and cared to guide him and leading him to commit suicide.

It feels very painful when you work really hard for your goal but fail to achieve it and you are ultimately judged by some random people who would leave no stone unturned to lower your worth.

There is only one piece of advice for my fellow misjudged and hardworking people- Do not give a damn about those a**holes who misjudge you.Just keep doing your work.

My one piece of advice for those who are in the habit of judging others- Keep your bullshit judgement in your a**.Just focus on your shitty life.

                                   And just mind your judgement!!!

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The roots of gender inequality

From the times immemorial, one perception has governed this world – Men are stronger than women.

Why is it so?  

Who made this perception?

Why only women have to suffer?

Well, the list of these type of questions is never going to end.

Gender inequality is one of the biggest problems which has been troubling nearly half of the population of this world since ages.Every problem always has a certain cause.To prevent a problem from spreading further, it should be nipped in the bud.But gender inequality was not nipped in the bud when it started so it went on spreading like fire, a fire which destroyed many innocent lives in the past and would continue to destroy more in the future if no stringent actions are taken.

Nature has created man and woman because it knows that both of them are equally important for the world and for each other.Nature’s every creation is a beautiful art.If only men were enough for this world to survive then nature would have never created women.Nature has created man and woman differently.There are many physical and biological differences between a man and a woman but nature never said that a man is much stronger than a woman.It is us, the humans, who have created this perception.If women were really very weak then no woman would have ever survived after giving birth to a child.Well, that’s the most painful job which not only requires physical strength but mental strength too.Just having more height and more muscular body than women, does not make men much stronger than women.

Going back to the old times, the practice of educating boys but not girls was common.Boys were sent to the school, they were given better food to eat, they were given full freedom to live their lives on the other hand girls were forced to stay at homes, they were forced to do household chores, they were given lesser food than what their brothers used to get( or in worst cases, they were forced to eat the leftover food of the family).The girl’s life was completely manipulated by her family members.

But who was responsible for this inhuman behaviour.

A man? 

No.

Not only a man but a woman too. In fact, a woman is much more responsible than a man because she did not do anything to safeguard her rights, her freedom.She silently adhered to the policies made by men.When such restrictions were imposed by the men on the women, women had two options in front of them, one was to protest against this injustice and the other one was to silently bear this pain.But unfortunately, they chose to do the latter one.

A self-proclaimed stronger person ‘X’ will never leave an opportunity to degrade and crush the other person’Y’, whom he thinks to be weaker than him. But it is up to ‘Y’ whether he gets crushed or fights back.This situation in analogous to the gender inequality problem, where ‘X’ is a man and ‘Y’ is a woman.

In India, the crime of female infanticide is a common one.Going deep into this matter, it is shocking to find that the women are equally responsible for this crime.In all these cases, mother-in-laws force their daughter-in-laws to kill the unborn girl child.It is shocking to learn that one woman wants another woman to give birth to a male child just because she thinks that males are better than females (What a complicated shit!!!).And if a female child is born instead of a male child then the mother-in-law leaves no stone unturned to torture her daughter-in-law.

I really don’t understand why Indian families are so much obsessed with the male child.Considering the fact that 99.9% of terrorists are males, 98% of robbers/dacoit/thieves are males, 100% of rapists are males then why the hell people still want a male child.It seems like Jungle-Raaj, where a lion is always considered as the king of the forest in spite of the fact that it kills so many innocent animals.

If a woman herself does not cares for her own gender then how can one expect a man to respect a woman?

In all dowry cases, again, mother-in-laws are the driving forces, where they along with their sons and husbands torture their daughter-in-laws for dowry.

The above two cases are the finest examples of – one woman is an enemy of another woman(“Aurat hi aurat ki dushman”).

Another problem which is corrupting the minds of people is female objectification which is more profound in entertainment and film industry.The filthy item songs in the movies had always been the topics of debate among common folks, especially the ones who run the women empowerment organisations.If these people find something offensive in the songs, they immediately lodge complaints against the movie makers.A single song can lead to so much trouble and distress.Going deep into this matter, it can be found that a woman(the item girl!)herself is responsible for all this ruckus.If on the first place, she would have thought of how badly can her this move impact the other women, all this had never happened.It is sad to learn that just for money, some women go to such an extent that they feel no shame in getting naked in front of the cameras.Men make rules and women blindfoldedly follow them.

But all this never means that men are innocent.If women are instructed to remain in their limits then those instructions stand true for men as well.Crossing the limits is not an acceptable thing whether be it for men or women.

To maintain peaceful relations and to live peacefully in this world, it is mandatory for both the genders to understand each other and respect each other.

      But one day the world would be a peaceful place to live is a myth!!!

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